Something that people often tell me is that I am not very forgiving and that I hold onto grudges for way too long. But the way I see it, some people just don't deserve to be forgiven. So, I'm not sure what to do. There's one person in my life who wronged me a long time ago, and I'm still angry even though they've apologized. I'm not sure if I should just let it go, forgive them, and move on, or if my anger is justified. In my opinion, if someone intentonally wronged me, they shouldn't be forgiven. Does anyone have any insight here?
I think your anger is understandable. Being hurt by someone on purpose can stay with you for a very long time, especially if the situation affected your trust or peace of mind. But forgiveness does not always mean saying that what they did was okay or letting them back into your life. Sometimes forgiveness is more about freeing yourself from carrying that anger every day. You can accept the apology without fully forgetting the situation. At the same time, nobody should pressure you into forgiving someone before you are ready. It’s a personal process, and your feelings are valid. The important thing is asking yourself whether holding onto the resentment is protecting you or just continuing to hurt you.
