I speak on behalf of young girls and women as I write these words about what I see happening in the world today. Every cell in my being objects to the conditioning by poor role models who represent what it supposedly means to be female and who resist the natural process of aging.
True, on a spiritual level, we’re all ageless. And, on a physical level, regardless of age, we’re sexual beings. It’s also true that sexuality and femininity shouldn’t be cut off by a certain age simply because society finds it taboo and persecutes us for being sexually liberated.
But there’s a huge difference between these truths and the celebrity-endorsed practice of denying the aging process by trying to look 21 at 60. Major celebrities don’t seem to understand that when you’re in a position of influence and power, you have a responsibility as a role model. They turn their backs on women and youth when they damn the process of physically aging.
You’re causing great hurt
The sad truth for these ladies is this: Yes, you can have the best plastic surgery, you can have the best stylists, and you can afford every possible product or procedure available to transform the skin. But if you’re doing this as an act of self-hatred, you’re hurting women and girls. You’re also hurting boys and men, and you’re hurting the Earth, which is energetically feminine. You’re mentally polluting the environment with the toxicity of your self-hatred and body-hatred. On the other hand, the body is acting from a place of love when it embraces change with grace, humility and respect.
The body is acting from a place of love when it embraces change with grace, humility and respect.
Taking care of yourself and maintaining a positive self-image are important things to focus on, especially if you’re a public figure. No one questions that. But when self-hatred and self-denial lead you down a path of polluting others’ beliefs through your career, that’s when your influence hurts others.
The adage stating that in order “to love others, you must love yourself first,” stems from the fundamental idea that how we treat others is a reflection of how we treat ourselves. When celebrity role models reject the process of aging and demonize the beauty and wisdom that come along with it, they’re rejecting and hurting themselves and, as such, all women and men—including their own daughters and sons.
You steal light from the youth
Once upon a time, this was acceptable because people were used to denying, destroying and butchering themselves. Today, in the Golden Age of a much higher consciousness, though, the young and the wise don’t find this behaviour acceptable, and won’t buy into the lie.
When you try to look 21 at 60, you steal light from the youth. Young girls deserve to enjoy their time in the sun. It’s their rite of passage. It’s their time to embrace and cherish each moment. It’s a blessing not to be gazed at with envy, but with appreciation. Girls don’t deserve to have to compare themselves, or have themselves compared to, a 60-year-old (or vice versa).
Feminists may argue that it’s sexist to say a 60-year-old must act or look “her age.” That’s not my point. I just don’t like seeing role models glamourize and support self-hatred, polluting the minds of youth and other individuals in society with their corrupt values. This has a deep and drastic effect on the mental health of others.
The soul shines brighter as we age
You want the soul to shine more beautifully and become freer as you get older. As the body ages, the soul shines brighter. It knows it’s nearing its time to go, so it brings forth as much love, beauty and wisdom as possible to help “drop the body” when it’s time. This process is deterred by self-imposed mental illness when a person traps the soul in a state of attachment to the physical body, and the addiction to youthful appearance (which differs from simple hygiene or taking good care of yourself) prevents the flowering stage of inner beauty from coming to fruition. It’s inner beauty that takes you to G’d at the end of your life—not self-hatred.
It’s harmful when powerful, influential people project negative impressions about aging onto their followers, or onto the public in general. It’s highly ignorant, caustic and irresponsible.
It’s a woman’s spiritual role, as a “way-shower,” to help other girls and women transition from birth to death. All women have this responsibility. For instance, many of us have grandmothers and great-grandmothers who can guide us towards aging with wisdom and grace. We’re denied this guidance, however, when older women continue to act like our best friends in high school, dating boys our own age; or act as if they’re in competition with us, trying to rob us of our light and right to shine.
The inevitable passage of life
This issue is deeper than social taboos or whether it’s fair that men have certain privileges that women don’t. Today, I’m concerned about our roles as women when it comes to helping other women transition through various passages of life.
Sadly, when the 21-year-old woman trapped in a 60-year-old body becomes 80 years old, she’ll realize that while she could transform her skin in any way she chose, she couldn’t prevent the totality of her body from diminishing in a variety of other ways. She won’t be able to hide that fact anymore. From the window of her eyes, she’ll look out at her hands and “wake up” to say, “My G’d, I’m a prisoner inside my body.”
So, the great question is this: Do you want to become a prisoner of your own body? Or do you want to prepare yourself to be Free?
This may seem like a frightening proposition, but it’s one I’d be sure to consider seriously, while making an effort to allow myself to age with love and the expression of inner beauty.