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If you’ve ever been curious about deciphering the cryptic contents of your subconscious mind, here’s your chance! If you would like Aneta to interpret your dream, fill out this form. She will respond with your dream interpretation through this blog, published every Thursday. Aneta would love to receive more comments for the dreams interpreted. If you can relate to a dream posted here or have any insights to add, you can post them as comments to the interpretation, or email her at aneta@themindfulword.org.
DREAM
Hi Aneta,
I frequently have this dream. I see my ex-boyfriend, the one I had in high school. In my first year of college, he broke off with me without giving any reason.
I see him at school reunions, or a common friend’s party or, in the last one, I saw him at his present home with his wife and child. In all these dreams he ignores me completely.
In real life he has even blocked me on social media sites. Although I never think of him now as I have my own happy family, I don’t know why I still see him in my dreams.
Can you tell me why?
DREAMER: Female, IN, 35
MAIN SYMBOLS:
Ex-boyfriend – inner aspect of the dreamer representing qualities from the past, from an older frame of mind
INTERPRETATION
Dear Radhika,
Your dream is very interesting and it provides much insight into the roles that people play in our lives. Everyone in a dream represents you, the dreamer. Your ex-boyfriend is an aspect of you, an inner aspect of you. The first thing to do is to identify two qualities that he represents to you. Is/was he kind or non-communicative? What are the two characteristics that you would describe him by? Whatever they are, they represent corresponding qualities within you. Your ex-boyfriend is appearing in your dreams to tell you that it’s time to pay attention to those qualities he represents, not to him as a person, but rather to the significance that he brought into your life through expressing those main character traits.
APPLICATION
It’s really true that we meet everyone for a reason. Everyone, especially through significant relationships, brings to us a gift of understanding a certain concept within ourselves if we allow for it to emerge. Through mindfulness we can be present enough to perceive the qualities that each person highlights in our life.
Since this is an ex-boyfriend, from a while ago, your subconscious mind wants you to review and refine the qualities that he symbolizes. It’s time to take an inventory of them, either upgrade them or completely transform them. Based on your dreams, whatever these qualities are, you’re currently blocking yourself from understanding them or using them on a deeper level (the ex-boyfriend ignores you). There’s a need for you to look at them, to pay attention. As you do so, your ex-boyfriend will either stop appearing in your dreams, or he will be very open and welcoming to you.
Oftentimes when we go through something significant in our lives, such as a breakup, we bury the pain of it deep inside of us. That pain however still needs to be processed and assimilated. It needs to be accepted and let go. This might be something for you to look at as well.
The process of examining what each person symbolizes to us can also be applied in our waking life. Asking ourselves what are the qualities that each significant person brings into our life is an excellent question to ask. The answers will reveal more depth and essence within our connections. In turn, more awareness of what we’re receiving, or learning about, within each relationship will enrich our daily existence.
Congratulations on your happy family!
May your dreams illuminate the inner you…
