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NO PSYCHIC KNOTS: Say what you really mean and express what you really feel

Last updated: March 24th, 2019

I’m not sure exactly how the idea came to be, or even where it came from. Maybe the words simmered up naturally, like the unexpected flavours from a good stew, a kind of aromatic secret message that’s only released upon a lengthy time of slow, patient, unattended cooking.

I was talking to my friend Patricia one day, several years ago and asked her a question that she wasn’t sure how to answer. Maybe I invited her over for dinner. I don’t recall exactly, but that’s how she tells the story. Whatever the case, when I asked the question, I saw in her eyes that the inner wheels were a-turnin’ and a-churnin’. For me, the question wasn’t a big deal, but it looked like she was thinking about it too hard. I could relate. Maybe she was wondering what else was going on that day, or if I was inviting her because she had just bought me lunch. Maybe she was thinking she didn’t really want to drive all the way from Palmer to Knik, or maybe she was having a hard time coming up with an excuse of why she couldn’t come because, basically, she just didn’t want to come. Or maybe she wanted to come but didn’t know what to wear, or if she should bring something, or… who knows? Just thinking all those twisted thoughts put a kink in my brain.

That’s when the phrase burbled up. “No psychic knots,” I said.

And that’s when she laughed. It was a great laugh—one of those deep laughs that releases tons of stuff you never even consciously knew you were carrying. Naturally, I joined in. Who wouldn’t want to ride that wave of healing for all it’s worth?

When we were through with the laughter, we both knew exactly what the phrase meant and, somehow, what it would come to mean. Patricia was smiling again and her eyes were clear. Or, as she put it, “My Medusa head normalized and relaxed.”

Patricia and I have been through a lot together. We tell each other our problems, analyze our dreams on long car rides, and look at all the strange occurrences in our lives that reveal patterns and offer clues as to who we really are, deep down beneath the surface.

Over the years, “no psychic knots” has been our little mantra of freedom. It’s a reminder to say what you really mean and express how you really feel. It’s an open invitation to explore flights of fancy and try on extravagant new ideas while, at the same time, saying “no” when you don’t want to do something and “yes” when you do—no rationalizations, excuses or lengthy explanations needed, or even wanted. It’s a mutual appeal to dissolve all those silly, unreal projections about what you think the other person wants; a dare to expose the constipated societal niceties that bind up our psyches with knotted shoulds and shouldn’ts.

In short, “no psychic knots” is a pass to clarity, both within and without. On larger levels it is, perhaps, a way to say that it’s OK for us (all of us, really) to begin to uncover our communal shadow material without fear or shame. It’s an encouragement to be bold and true to ourselves.

Most simply, “no psychic knots” is a reminder to be real. That’s why I like it. Maybe you will, too. If not—no psychic knots.

[su_panel background=”#f2f2f2″ color=”#000000″ border=”0px none #ffffff” shadow=”0px 0px 0px #ffffff”]Dawn Brunke was the editor of Alaska Wellness and author of Animal Voices and Awakening to Animal Voices: A Teen Guide to Telepathic Communication with All Life. See www.animalvoices.net for more. Reposted with kind permission from Alaska Wellness.